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I don't know if former Miss California USA Carrie Prejean is a believer but this I do know, if you go against the world values you better have all of your ducks in a row. One thing I have learned in today's news is that every rock will be turned over when you are in the public eye so it's best to come clean about everything if you want that lifestyle. Did she not think about the topless photo of her would not come to light? Did she not think that it would not come out that confirm that they[Miss California pageant officials] paid for Prejean’s breast-enhancement surgery? Should that make a difference? In the world's eyes "No." But if you are Follower of Christ..."Yes".

We are not perfect(Followers of Jesus Christ)...never have been...never will be. Heck I know I will make mistakes sometimes today because we all have a fallen nature but what disturbs me are two factors that are growing more and more.

The first is the fact that our youth don't think twice about their actions. When i was coming up if you screwed up you could move to another town or if you have said something that you later regret it would take ions for it to catch up with you...not today. You can take a racy photo in the morning and within a day or two it can be plastered over the web. We can be photographed by cell phones (I myself have began taking pictures of landscapes with my BlackBerry and I have to admit, the photos are not bad). I can't really blame the youth or get angry at them because it is up to the parents to instill in them value. It's up to them(parents) to tell them that your decisions, your actions today...especially in this technology world can cost you big time down the road.

They have watched too many high profile people in the world, whether it has been a sports announcer (remember the incident with Marv Albert), with Robert Downey Jr. and his in and out of rehab, with Kobe Bryant incident in Colorado and after a while it is all but forgotten. Let's not forget about business corruptions, I mean people listen to former Governor Eliot Spitzer, Mark Fuhrman and others who worked in law enforcement and have manipulated the law and now are listened to by thousands or even millions of people in regards to their views and judgements of others and not blink tells me that if parents do not instill in them moral values it's going to get worse before it gets better.

The second thing that really disturbs me are Christians. Me being a believer myself I heard something Dr. Charles Stanley say a couple of years ago and I try to follow this principle:

it's a difference between "a Follower of Jesus Christ" and a "Christian"

I am so amazed how many people say they are a Christian and continue to believe in things that the Bible surely teaches against: from having children out of wedlock, to homosexuality, living together and not married but can come out and put someone else on "Full Blast" From Governor Sarah Palin to Dr. James Dobson...it amazes me that many who are believers in God and yet can look over their faults and their family faults and make comments about others. It amazes me how the Christian community can circle the wagons around former Miss California and not really find out about her past. Should the church hold that against her...No.

But in the world this is why many people do not come to Christ because we beat people down but at the same time we don't live by Christ teachings. She [Carrie Prejean] could have a stronger leg to stand on if she did not have skeletons in her closet. I don't care for Perez Hilton but don't give him ammunition to take you down and that is what happened to her What really makes me nervous is that the "Christian" community will get behind her and brush over the fact of the mistakes she has made and not hold her accountable for her actions. I'm afraid my Brothers and Sisters in Christ will claim she was attacked because of her beliefs but I ask, what is her beliefs? They will try to brush over the fact that she posed topless and say, "she didn't know any better because of her age (she says she was 17 at the time of the photos) they will brush over the fact of her breast enlargement when Christ teaches us that our body is our temple and a "pimp my body" type of deal.

I hope I'm wrong and this post will be another, "rant' but I have a strong feeling I may not be wrong...we will see.

{inspired by Fave's discussion with Doctor REALove}

I am so happy and blessed that I'm married...I really am. This is a post I've been thinking about this since downloading and listening to his his "G&SeXtra: Grown Folks ONLY" show. What started off as a question from a young man asking about which direction he should allow his interracial relation to take because of the looks and reactions he's receiving from some Black women and how he feels that when he was single no Black woman in his area would "give him the time of day" spiraled into a heart to heart discussion between Fave and Doctor REALove. It hit home for me, not because of the fact that I have been in a interracial relationship (and not to say at one time or another I haven't tried, I guess I frightened women because of my height and weight, who knows) but what Fave said really hit home for me when it comes some of my sistas in the workplace and how many times they will not speak, make eye contact with many Black men.

Let me say this is not ALL of my beautiful black women but I'm not going to lie, I have witnessed it time and time again when it comes to myself in my workplace today. I am so glad I am not single in this day and time because God forbid if anything would happen to my beautiful queen I think I would go into the priesthood (and I'm not even Catholic). I'm at a age now where at one end of the spectrum it makes me angry and on the other end I can do nothing but laugh when it comes to my beautiful sistas not wanting to say "hello" when passing me in the hallway, not making eye contact, not smiling...I just do not get it. What has we as Black men done to you(Black women) to make you act as if you just spoke we would try and jump your bones right there on the job. I can see if you were walking down the street or if you were in a bad neighbourhood or in a club but you are in the workplace. I have come to a place in my life where now I deliberatly sometimes look and smile at my Black sistas to see if they will make eye contact and just speak and to be honest 8 out of 10 times they will not make any type of jester to speak.

Now I'm a realist and I know some of us brothas are knuckleheads, some of us will try and hump anything with a hole. I know some of us have turned out to be real dawgs and many times my brothas are little boys inside grown men bodies. We sometime want to blame every Black woman for our downfall and in many cases we need to look inwardly...we need to look in the mirror and have a serious conversation with ourselves and ask, "what can I do to make myself a better person, a better man, a better Black man?" I was brought up by a single mom and coming up I did not have not one girlfriend growing up...NOT ONE!!! I tried, believe me I did and time and time again I was shot down but as I grew older and I look back I wasn't really ready for the opposite sex. I know if I would have had my way I would have had upten babies and probably living with my mom sleeping in that same little bed with the poster of Tony Dorsett on the wall.

{that's a lie. I hated the Cowboys so it would have been a poster of Franco Harris on the wall...but anyhow...}

I know some of us Black men have left a bad taste in out Black women mouths but you can not throw out the baby with the bath water. We all are not lepers, we are all not "no-good bastards". Many of us may not the corporate jobs but we work hard, put up with nonsense in the white and blue collar workforce just like you do. What I really loved the conversation between Fave and Doctor REALove was how open and honest she was about having date a White man and how Fave was honest when he dated outside his race...about how he went through the same dilemma the young man was going through and I feel both of them. If a person wished to date outside their race because of "love" so be it but they have to realize what they will face for a lifetime.

All relationships are work...yes work! And to date outside your race that is another culture class because let's be honest dating the opposite sex in my book is "opposite" enough so imagine when you bring someone into your life that is of a different culture. I also feel what DoctorREALove said when saying when you date outside your race because you think one race is better than another that is a problem. That person really, in my opinion does not love themselves and need to take a long, hard look at themselves before bringing someone in their lives.

I think what hurts me when seeing this behavior with some Black women (I have to keep stressing that because I know it's not all of my beautiful sistas) is how cozy they are with White men and will walk right past and not even speak to a brother. I just turned 44 and to me it's like in some ways we are going backwards and not forward. Just last night a sista received a note on her desk...a young man left his number and ask her to "text him". Some of the things she said I understood...she said, "Whoever it was needs to say something face to face...I'm not into playing games." I nodded my head in agreement; but when my sista said, "and besides, I don't date dark men...only light complexion guys." That was a quick, horrific flashback for me circa 1970s and I'm hoping we are not going back to that day and time. Now, she has every right to date only light complextion brothas because as she puts it, "I've only gotten along with light dudes" but at the same time that kind of stings because I went through that coming up because I'm a brown complexion dude and to here that took me back to the days of seeing groups like Switch, The Debarges(wait...they are from the 80s right? anyhow...) I couldn't do anything but shake my head.

To my beautiful sistas out there, I just ask one thing of you...when you see a Brotha in the hallway of your workplace at least speak. I know you have had it hard, I know at times you have been treated badly but sometimes we as people have to be honest with ourselves and say with some of those "losers" I hooked up with, "Did I ignore the warning signs when dating this person?" One thing I know that I know in my 44 years on this earth, God has given women the "golden touch" when it comes to judgment but I'm afraid many times you are lead by your heart and not your head. If your inner voice (I don't care what anyone says, it's the Holy Spirit) is telling you that hey walk away from that person....DO IT!!! If a man, while you are dating insults you on purpose privately or in public...LEAVE HIM ALONE!!! It's not going to get better. If a man puts his hands on your ONCE...leave him alone. You cannot love someone if they do not love themselves.

Okay, that's my rant...I'm getting off my soapbox. I love you my sistas but as the one brother said in "Dairy of a Mad Black Woman" said, "Don't make me pay for the mistakes of how you were treated in past relationships" It's a drain on you and the person that is trying to treat you the way you needed to be treated...like a queen.

{if you have not listened to Fave's podcast it is a MUST!!! Thank you again Fave and DoctorREALove for this insight show}

This is a special podcast because this is a special month for me...May. I was born this month and I have been told that it is better to give than receive so this podcast I have put together show about 90 minutes of music from talented artists from seasoned artists and artists which star is on the rise.

The cool thing about loving different genres of music for me is that when I began this podcast in 2007 is that right off the back I began meshing different style of music because I did not want my shows to be painted in a corner. Although I chose that path it took a minute to build a following and at times I found myself wondering if I made the right decision in going this direction but now it seems that I have come to realize that I am who I am when it comes to my taste in music and when you stick to your passion it will work out in the end.

This show is a combination of different genres/different artists that otherwise would never be in the same line up but through the wonderful world of the internet and the open minds of people I can bring this eclectic of music. Enjoy

Be Blessed, Be Safe,
& Have a Wonderful Weekend/Work Week

~DarrenKeith

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Tracks/Artists/Albums(or website)

1. The Camera Never Lies - Michael Franks{from "The Camera Never Lies}
2. Another Country - Shadowfax{from "What Goes Around: The Best of Shadowfax"}
3. Back To Life - Corneille{from "The Birth of Cornelius"}
4. Try To Understand - City Rain{from "This I Will Remember"}
5. So Lovely - Amber Ojeda{from "myspace.com/amberojeda"}
6. Shanghi Express - The Shanghai Restoration Project{from"The Shanghai Restoration Project"}
7. Vector Sector - Axiotronic{from "Of Latitude And Longitude"}
8. Saunter - Fave
9. Pudong New District -(feat. Jennifer Kim) The Shanghai Restoration Project{from "Reinterpretations"}
10. Flying Spiders of Bablyon - Atomic Skunk{from "Binary Scenes"}
11. Wide Asleep - Michael Manring{from "Drastic Measures"}
12. When Luvrzs Come (Together) - Fave{Big La remix}
13. Human Nature - Miles Davis{from "You're Under Arrest"}
14. State of the Heart - Rick Springfield{from "Tao"}

intro underscore music: todd kelley
outro underscore music: nicolay

"Thank You's" to these artists & podcasters...
Amber Ojeda
Atomic Skunk(Rich Brodsky)
Nicolay
Mike Spinka
Natalie
My Podcast Brothers and Sisters

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email me:myloveformusic08@gmail.com

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later gators

As of today, I will put this blog on hiatus due to my schedule of work and I will be starting school soon and plus I want to concentrate on my podcast and God's word I will focus my attention to my main blog, Theology&Technology. These past months I have had some growing, and growing up to do...trying to get back to my roots. These past months I have been soaking in the positive vibes of Dr. Charles Stanley and Zig Ziglar and really nothing else and have been loving it.

By me focusing on just one blog and my podcast I will be able to catch up on my fellow podcasters, tell you more what is going on with them and myself (isn't tat what a blog is all about any way...all about yourself? ) I was going to shut this blog down but my geek sister told me to just put it on ice for a minute because you never know and she's right. I have invested too much in this blog to just kick it to the curb so I will be back...don't know when but I will be back. I will cross post from time to time but for now, so long and as always...

Be Blessed, Be Safe &
have a Wonderful life.

(cont.) and have my music for my MLFM:Twilight podcast! :-D Life is sweet. :-)

GM & Happy Sunday everyone(part II) found some great music for my regular MLFM podcast...

rtw: CC musician General Fuzz on this week's Hearts of Space! listen free today only @ http://www.hos.com/ (from @hiddenplace) thanx dude!!!

found a lot of nice traditional jazz/new age/electronic music for my regular MLFM podcasts

GM & Happy Sunday(early birds) up since 4:44am looking for music for the next podcast. :-)